FATHER is what I AM.


In honor of FATHERS day I want to repost the letter I wrote to my first-born daughter way back in the 70″s. Some thing magical happened when I first held her in my arms. I can not explain it. I don’t know what happened but that 18-year-old boy from the south Bronx was changed for ever. I was shaking and emotional. She was the most AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL thing I had ever seen. I can still smell her. I can’t explain how great that baby smell is if you have never had a child but trust me it is wonderous! And you will NEVER forget it. I remember staring at her for hours and then I felt myself tingling and knowing that I was changing some how I can’t explain it, I just knew something was happening. I held her close to me so I could whisper in her ear and that’s when I told her. “I DEDICATE MY LIFE TO YOU.” And so began my journey to becoming a FATHER. And over the next couple of years I came to understand what being a father was and i put a pen to paper and this is the letter I wrote.

Father… What is a father? For me it is who I am, what I am, what I want to be, what I need to be. It is the responsibility I live for. I will not apologize for being a father, for being the adult when the situation calls for it. I will make the decision I belive is the right one as your father, not as your friend. I will love you unconditionally. I will protect you till my last breath. I will respect you and demand you respect me. I will financially support you. I will emotionally encourage you to dream to believe in the greatness that is inside you. I will push you to be the best you can be, what you want to be , not who I want or think you should be. I will accept your individuality, your life style choices, I will never judge you. I will just love and support you. I will educate you-not because I am more intelligent than you, but because I am more experienced than you, because I have already made the mistakes and learned from them and I want to share them with you to help you avoid repeating them. This I swear to you! This I promise! I dedicated my life to you the day you were born. You will always be my first and only priority. I will never raise my hand to you. I will never abandon you. Because I AM A FATHER.

If you are a young man thinking about becoming a FATHER or already are a FATHER I encourage you to read my letter a few times and see if any of it can help you in your journey into FATHERHOOD. I do not claim it to be anything other than how I feel so please don’t take it as me preaching or saying that this is definitive. I just know that this is how I have lived my life. I have accomplished much in my life. From becoming a u.s.marine, to staying married for almost 40 years, to my many career accomplishments but nothing even comes close to being a good FATHER!

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Not what you think is it


So I love this day off also! And I love to BBQ with the family and have quality time with them just like everybody else. BUT as you all already know I am a Marine corps veteran I know all too well the fears and anxieties, the 12 hour training days, the loneliness of being aways from your family for sometimes years at a time. The sacrifices wifes and husbands, children and parents make to support their heroes. And I can not help but think and appreciate this day for what it is for. And the men and women who sacrificed so much to help protect this great country of ours. I have said this many times before, I also don’t agree 100% with this countries politics, with our involvements in conflicts, with our rules of engagement. What I do is respect, honor and appreciate all does who serve in our military for they do not make the rules, choose the fights, they just simply serve and are at the ready to give life or limb to protect us with out question. And for this I say   THANK YOU!   I RESPECT YOU!   I APPRECIATE YOU!   I SUPPORT YOU!   I NEED YOU!

This 18-year-old went in a PUNK from the south Bronx of New York and came out a U.S. MARINE, A BETTER MAN, A BETTER HUSBAND, A BETTER FATHER

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Yes Multi-millionaire! Please…


I read a few articles a couple of weeks ago and was pissed off by the hard sell and grandiose attitude. It upsets me when we are fed these glorious how to become millionaire how to’s. “Learn how to generate multimillion-dollar wealth — and enjoy the journey on your way to the top”. “First, understand that you no longer want to be just a millionaire. You want to become a multimillionaire”. Hears my answer EAT ME!  They never give you word for word or step by step directions. Just hyperbole and round about that lead you to a product or service or agenda that they are really trying to sell. And that’s what is truly upsetting to me is that we fall for the fast track, the get rich quick scam the take a magic pill and lose weight or wear the magic electric belt and loose belly fat story. STOP IT!!! Holy shit whats it going to take for us to understand the facts: To lose weight you have to burn off more calories than you take in. PERIOD! Basically eat better and smarter and move more. You know, don’t pound down 5 cheese burgers and take a nap instead eat one cheese burger and take a walk. Now I know it is not that simple, some people have medical issue, mental issues etc. Save your complaints I get it! You are the one who doesn’t get the point of this post. It’s not about fat people or poor people or stupid people it’s about stepping back and thinking, applying some thought and common sense processes. Ok back to the post. For financial health spend less money then you make. Basic math people. The greatest word in math is MULTIPLY!  If you make  $1,000 a month but spend $1,500  MULTIPLY that by 12 months and you’re in deep shit. Now multiply that by the credit you use to make up that $500.00 you over spent and the criminal interest rates you paid to use that credit by 12 months and now you are in really deep stinky diarrhea shit. On the other hand spend less than you make and save or invest that extra cash, MULTIPLY it by 12 months and now your shit don’t stink now you have some peace of mind, now you are not depressed about money and not arguing with your partner about money and you have a little security, now maybe your credit score is better and you can take advantage of opportunities that might arise to increase your net worth. NET that’s another great word. GROSS doesn’t mean shit if your NET sucks. If you’re gross is a million dollars but your liabilities are 1.5 million then your net worth is negative 1/2 a million and your financial life sucks. Wait, Wait for it, here come the wall street crowd, Pete you are wrong you forgot about leverage in this scenario. And too you I also say EAT ME! You don’t get the point of this post. I have no finance back ground, I am not offering your bullshit advice to my readers so save it. My savvy readers get this post, come back and read their comments. I simply say THINK, RESEARCH, TRUST YOUR GUT, USE COMMON SENCE. Dont allow yourself to become the food in the food chain!

UPDATE:  In one of those articles they had  rules for becoming a multimillionaire and I have to admit that some of them if you use them in everyday life could be beneficial. So I will copy and past their rules and add/adjust to make them work for me. You are welcome to see if they fit in your life.

And one more thing, when you become a Multimillionaire. Help a brother out! Send me a few bucks.

No. 1: Decide to be a multimillionaire
BIDPETE:
How about I first decide I want to be a better person, better father, better husband, better man. Yea I think I will start there and I bet you I will start making better choices, better decisions.

No. 2: Get rid of poverty thinking
BIDPETE: WTF? im just going to ignore this one. I want to remember the hard times, the mistakes so I can enjoy my accomplishments. P.S. I get it I just don’t ever want to lose myself.

No. 3: Treat it like a duty                                                                                                                                                        BIDPETE: Yes you have to be focused, committed and work hard every day towards your goals in life. What ever those goals are.

No. 4: Surround yourself with multimillionaires
 You can’t learn how to make money from someone who doesn’t have much. Who says, “Money won’t make you happy”? People without money. Who says, “All rich people are greedy”? People who aren’t rich. Wealthy people don’t talk like that. You need to know what people are doing to create wealth and follow their example: What do they read? How do they invest? What drives them? How do they stay motivated and excited?                                                                                                                                                                                                              BIDPETE: A big yes. I believe that you have to move out side of your circle of influence to grow. If your circle involves chaos and confusion, or abuse or negativity, poverty, criminality. You can not learn how to move on from this circle. That is why they are still in this circle, they don’t know how to get out of it. You have to look outside of this circle one circle at a time untill you acquire the skill set to move on. I could go on for days on this one. If you don’t make a change today than tomorrow will be just more of the same and so on for years maybe even a life time.

No. 5: Work like a millionaire                                                                                                                                              Financially successful people are consumed by their hunt for success and work to the point that they feel they are winning and not just working.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    BIDPETE: Hell yea! Just don’t forget to smell the roses. Enjoy your life. Be there for your FAMILY!

No. 6: Shift focus from spending to investing
The rich don’t spend money; they invest. They know the U.S. tax laws favor investing over spending. You buy a house and can’t write it off. The rich, in contrast, buy an apartment building that produces cash flow, appreciates and offers write-offs year after year. You buy cars for comfort and style. The rich buy cars for their company that are deductible because they are used to produce revenue.  BIDPETE: Hello! Checkmate! Read this section a hundred time please!

No. 7: Create multiple flows of income
The really rich never depend on one flow of income but instead create a number of revenue streams.           BIDPETE: CHA-CHING!

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Sex Position Names, Link


How
Lie on your back with your legs raised and folded over so that your ankles are on either side of your head, while he squats and dips his penis in and out of your vagina.
Benefit
Aside from getting that eye contact, the extra rush of blood into your head will increase the ecstasy.
Bonus
Have him dribble chocolate syrup or honey into your mouth. It gets more of your senses involved and amps up the whole experience.

BUTTER CHURNER: You should go to prison for doing this to your partner.

How
He enters you from the missionary position, then slides his chest and legs off your body so his pelvis is in the same location but his limbs form an “X” with yours.
Benefit
You feel more of his body in motion.
Bonus
Use this unique angle to massage his back, butt, or legs as he thrusts.

X-FACTOR: This ain’t no singing competition

How
He sits, legs bent, leaning back on his hands and forearms. You do the same and then inch toward him until you connect.
Benefit
You’ll both feel really connected looking at each other. Increase your stimulation by grinding your clitoris against his pelvis.
Bonus
Slide ice cubes down his chest and let the cold water collect at the base of his pelvis.

MAGIC MOUNTAIN: Now you see it now you don’t

How
With both of you standing, you bend over at the waist; he enters you from behind.
Benefit
Bending over helps make the vaginal walls tighter and increases the intensity of the friction.
Bonus
Have him tickle your clitoris with his free hand, or loosely tie your hands together with a silky scarf.

STAND AND DELIVER: I got your package right here, same day delivery

How
While he sits on the bed or a chair, back yourself into his lap and spoon each other while seated.
Benefit
Because you can’t see your partner, fantasizing is easier, which can ad too the excitement.
Bonus
Tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor so you can grip him and keep him erect.

THE CABOOSE: All Aboard, this train is going home

How
From missionary position, you raise your legs and extend them straight out (forming a “V”).
Benefit
This allows for good body contact with the vulva.
Bonus
Try grabbing your ankles. It can give you stability and an added stretch.

VALEDICTORIAN: Here’s your Mic! I got your 4.o right here

How
Near the edge of a bed or bench, rest on the hip and forearm of one side and press your thighs together. Your man stands and straddles you, entering from behind.
Benefit
Keeping your legs pressed together allows for a tighter hold on him as he thrusts.
Bonus
Instead of letting him do all the work, try thrusting you hips slightly to match his tempo.

CORKSCREW:

How
Get on your hands and feet and have him pick you up by the pelvis. Then grip his waist with your thighs.
Benefit
Aside from being a fabulous arm workout for you, this male-dominant move allows him deeper penetration and an amazing view of your assets.
Bonus
Try resting on a table or the side of the bed and give your arms a break.

WHEELBARROW: I said give me ten push ups

How
Similar to the popular Cowgirl position, you kneel on top of him, pushing off his chest and sliding up and down his thighs. But he helps by supporting some of your weight and grabbing your hips or thighs while he rises to meet each thrust.
Benefit
Less stress on your legs, making climaxing easier. Plus, female-dominant positions delay his climax, so everyone wins.
Bonus
Alternate between shallow and deep thrusting to stimulate different parts of the vagina.

COWGIRL’S HELPER: Wake me up when your done.

How
Standing on one foot, face your guy and wrap your other leg around his waist while he helps support you.
Benefit
Allows for quality face time and connecting.
Bonus
If you’re a Flexi Lexie, try putting the raised leg on his shoulder for even deeper penetration.

BALLET DANCER: So you think you can dance

Here are the pictures and link I promised. Now stop calling me for them! You perv’s! Actually your comments were great on the original post so you earned this, but your still perv’s.

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/sex-positions?pos=11

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Sex Position Names


https://breakitdownpete.wordpress.com/2012/05/11/sex-position-names-link/ Click this link for the answers with pictures!

Ahhhhhhhh Shit, finally! My Man! you are going to break down the sex thingggggggggggg! First things first, you can get all kinds of wound up just from the names of some of the positions! Now I have been around for a long time and this is not my first rodeo. But WTF out of about 35 sex position names I could only identify about 3. SON OF A BITCH I’m pissed, but on the floor in tears with laughter over visualizing theses names. Give it your best shot and see if you know what some of these positions are. Spell some of them out for me if you think you can. In a few days I will share the link to the pictures and descriptions to the names of the positions. If you are nice to me of course? 1. The pretzel dip 2. Flatiron 3. G-wiz 4. Face off 5. Cowgirls helper 6. Leap frog 7. Ballet dancer 8. Cork screw 9. Wheel barrow 10. X-factor 11. The caboose 12. Stand and deliver 13. Butter churner 14. The seashell 15. Magic mountain 16. The pinball wizard 17. Valedictorian.    SERIOUSLY? THE PRETZEL DIP!
Disclaimer: Warning: Unless you work for cirque du soleil some of these positions can kill you! or at least dislocate something. Holy flying salami I think I need a cigaret and a nap after reading this list. Or at the very least a shower!

UPDATE!   So Mr. Guapo-lisious has thrown down the gauntlet. Him and his young self, hanging from ceiling fans and shit! Now I ain’t no spring chicken but we have some moves of our own cause my woman is all acrobatic and shit, don’t let the grey hairs fool you. We got moves like  1. The wheel chair  2. The sit down and don’t move  3. The Advil  4. The oops my bad  5. The resuscitation.  6. The don’t you wish.  These are just a few because I can’t give you all my moves in one post. You young kids ain’t ready for all that freakness!

My Grown Folk back me up on this one (Ha,Ha I said back me up. Thats my secret move.) Let these young kids know how we roll!

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Appropriate yet inappropriate photos


I told you not to make the HULK ANGRY!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  St. Patrick’s Day Hangover

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “And you thought blueballs were bad?”

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  Here’s to GOING GREEN

Appropriate for my site yes! For my usual readership, hell Yes! For other stick up the ass, bouche, condescending sites whose readers have the attention span of a gerbil, the sense of humor of a comma patient – Maybe not so much! I have decided that this week I am going to just let my hair down and have some  fun with some sexy photo campaigns from ad agencies from around the world. Like they say Sex sells. These are ads that push the inappropriate line of sex innuendos to sell a product or idea. I am going to give you some of my own twisted, seriously inappropriate captions and you see if you can add an even better caption then mine in your comments! Come on now, my usual suspects. Dont let me down I know how funny and dirty you guys can get! come get some! Dont make me call you out by name! Stoopidhousewifes, Lafemmeroar, Lizziecracked, Lorna, J.a.m, Guapo, Ohmar, Cayman, Linda, Lorrelee…………..I will copy some of your captions into my post next to my captions so they show up on the post and we can compare, funny for funny and dirty for dirty.

Make my Martini JERCKED NO STIRRED!           Enjoy your COCKtail!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  Deep throating can get your drunk

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  THIS will make you speak German … TULOSBA!!

 http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  Kill 2 birds with one stone. Put it in and drink it up, but not necessarily in that order

Practice safe food, always wear a hair net when EATING TACO!      To save a life remember; 3 short breaths followed by chest compressions.

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  Bushtache

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “I wanted a chainsaw like in Army of Darkness, but they said this would be safer”  “WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MY WIFE, CLOUSEAU??!?”

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  I hate parsley on my food, but this is fine!

http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  Discount if you cum together.

To kneel or not to kneel that was the question? I like your answer!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  I worship the Schlong

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Flirt Vodka – for disinfecting the worst cuts and scratches”

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  Flirt Vodka will make you happy … real happy

http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  So good, you’ll drop to your knees. **Apply liberally to wombs post-event.

Sure i got an extra cigarette right here for you!    Yes of course it’s a lite cigarette!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  Don’t blow smoke in my mouth

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “No no no, blow and suck mean the same thing here”

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Smoking Kills” … that’s just a myth!

http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Before I go down, you are going to have to filter that.”

Before Proactive!       I’ll take Nipple for 200 Alex!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  I’ve got milk in my zit!

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Do you think I should pop it?”

 http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  Squeeze here and you might get a surprise

 http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  Can I touch you zit?

Its magic baby!     I’m just a love machine!    Armed and Dangerous!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  One of your hands keeps giving me “the birdie”

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Shiva is also the god of love.”

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/Said:  This way I’ll reach every hole

http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Would you tell Susan I like it rough and are those Peter’s hands? If this wasn’t so hot, I’d be really grossed out right now.”

This could be worse, these stitches could be in your ASS!     What part of XXL did you not believe!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  Aftermath of a blow job marathon

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Wear protection – you do not want a cold sore down there!”

 http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  I take deep throat VERY seriously

http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  That was really a mouthful.

Takes an asshole to know an asshole!          Looks like a preparation H. day!

http://lafemmeroar.wordpress.com/ Said:  De-constipating the job market

http://amorsthoughts.wordpress.com/ Said:  This is how many asses it takes to run an office

http://guapola.wordpress.com/ Said:  “Back! Back from whence you came, Yuppies!”

 http://articlesofabsurdity.wordpress.com/ Said:  “All aboard the StinkHole!”

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CREDIT 101.1a quiz answers


Thank you to all who contributed to this post and for having some fun with the comments. Below you will find the answers to the quiz. What I want and hope is that you will consider your credit and the value it has on your finances. I will continue to post on this topic in the future. In the mean time here is the greatest link to the most informative site I  know on this topic. Go there and use it! It is a great resource!       WWW.CREDITFAIRY.ORG     Please give me some feed back on this resource. Do you have one we should know about?

1. It is impossible to change what’s in your credit report.
False

Correct! Inaccuracies, errors, out of date information canbe fixed with the credit bureaus. Accurate negative information (late payments, delinquencies, etc.) less than seven years old cannot be magically “erased” from your report, but you can begin to rebuild your credit by making positive financial choices going forward.

2. You have to make a lot of money to have a good credit score.
False

Correct! Your income is not included as part of your credit score or credit bureau report.

3. Paying cash for every purchase hurts your credit.

True

Correct! If you do not have any established sources of credit—credit cards, loans, etc.—lenders will actually consider you a credit risk. Paying your bills on time, using varied sources of credit and building a long credit history can bolster your credit score. Consider taking out a small loan and paying it off quickly or opening a new credit card and paying your charges off each month to help boost your score.

4. You have multiple credit scores.

True

Correct! You actually have at least four credit scores! Each of the three credit bureaus—Experian, Equifax and TransUnion—calculates your credit score based on their own information and data, in addition to calculating your FICO score based on their own information as well.

5. It takes 7 years to fix a poor credit score.
False

Correct! Negative credit items like late payments, defaults or delinquencies do remain on your credit report for seven years on average. However, you can begin to rebuild your credit score almost immediately by adding positive items (like on-time payments) to your credit history, thereby diluting the effect of past negative items.

6. Keeping old credit card accounts open can improve your credit score.

True

Correct! Length of credit history accounts for at least 15 percent of your overall credit score, so if you have a number of credit cards and decide you want to close one, selecting the card with the longest history is not the best choice. Payment history accounts for up to 35 percent of your score, so make sure you keep the cards you’ve had the longest, and pay them on time every month. The longer you’ve had a card with a good payment history, the better!

7. When you get married, your credit score is merged with your spouse’s.
False

Correct! Your credit history is unique to you…forever. However, if you apply for joint credit (car loan, home mortgage, etc.) with your spouse, both credit histories will be reviewed. If one of you has a negative credit history, it can affect whether or not you will be approved for the loan and its terms.

8. Checking your credit report can hurt or lower it.
False

Correct! You have the right to check your credit report anytime; this is called an “administrative inquiry” and it does not affect your credit score. However, too many inquiries made by potential lenders over a twelve month period canlower your score, so be careful about opening too many cards or applying for too many loans in one year.

9. Credit scores and credit reports are two different things.

True

Correct! Your credit report is a comprehensive listing of all your current and past credit cards, loans, and other personal financial data. Your credit scoreis a number calculated from the data in your credit report and other information, like checking accounts.

10. Bankruptcy is a “fresh start” for troubled credit.
False

Correct! Bankruptcies are reflected on your credit report…so while you won’t owe any outstanding debts anymore once you have filed for bankruptcy, the bankruptcy itself will still have a negative impact on your overall credit score.

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Credit 101.1 QUIZ


So let’s try this again!  From the top this time!  CREDIT! CREDIT! CREDIT! you can not get away from this word and what it means in your life. Here is the definition straight out of the dictionary. You can easily see that the word CREDIT is a good thing until you fuck it up! then its your worst nightmare. Like that house you promised your baby you would buy her, before CREDIT made you a liar! Or why you still live with your MaMa because CREDIT said No Way Jose to the only apartment your broke ass could afford. And the reason your ass is broke is because CREDIT told your potential employer that you are a dead beat loser who might be a risk to hire. Yea, Yea, get the sand out of your vagina and stop your crying I know this is not the majority of you that I speak of. I know there are many legit reasons for having a poor credit score like your company down sizing and kicking your ass to the curb, or your dumb ass cheating and your partner kicking you to the curb like the dog that you are and taking your CREDIT with them. Or that Casanova you met on-line that you traveled overseas to marry only to find out that he was already married to 3 other women, and a prison escapee who conned you out of your good credit. Wait shit this one doesn’t count if this is you then you are already to stupid for me to help. Or the evil bankers who sold you that million dollar house while you were working at Micky D’s. Or the family member you co-signed for, who turned up on Americas Most Wanted. I am not talking about you! I am mostly talking about me! Back in the day! Before I became older then dirt! I was probably all of these except the overseas one. That one I have no sympathy for i’m just going to keep laughing at your dumb ass. So get a grip! Answer the quiz I am about to give you and help me educate others!

Dictionary definition:

1. commendation or honor given for some action, quality, etc.: Give credit where it is due.
2. a source of pride or honor: You are a credit to your school.
3. the ascription or acknowledgment of something as due or properly attributable to a person, institution, etc.: She got a screen credit for photography.
4. trustworthiness; credibility: a witness of credit.
  5. confidence in a purchaser’s ability and intention to pay, displayed by entrusting the buyer with goods or services without immediate payment.
  6. reputation of solvency and probity, entitling a person to be trusted in buying or borrowing: Your credit is good.
  7. influence or authority resulting from the confidence of others or from one’s reputation.
8. time allowed for payment for goods or services obtained on trust: 90 days’ credit.
9. repute; reputation; esteem.
  10. a sum of money due to a person; anything valuable standing on the credit side of an account: He has an outstanding credit of $50.
  11. Education .

a. official acceptance and recording of the work completed by a student in a particular course of study.
  12.Bookkeeping .

a. an entry of payment or value received on an account.
b. the right-hand side of an account on which such entries are made ( opposed to debit).
  an entry, or the total shown, on the credit side.
  13. any deposit or sum of money against which a person may draw.

Have good credit and life is much easier. Take this quiz and leave me your answers in the comments, like this  (1. T – F  2. T – F) etc. and in a day or two I will post the answers and continue on this CREDIT journey. Or not if you tell me i’m full of shit and you want me to shut up on this topic.

1. It is impossible to change what’s in your credit report.

True
False

2. You have to make a lot of money to have a good credit score.

True
False

3. Paying cash for every purchase hurts your credit.

True
False

4. You have multiple credit scores.

True
False

5. It takes 7 years to fix a poor credit score.

True
False

6. Keeping old credit card accounts open can improve your credit score.

True
False

7. When you get married, your credit score is merged with your spouse’s.

True
False

8. Checking your credit report can hurt or lower it.

True
False

9. Credit scores and credit reports are two different things.

True
False

10. Bankruptcy is a “fresh start” for troubled credit.

True
False

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Punching You in the Face!


 Views from the Couch

There is nothing wrong with being right.

You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face

12 Feb 2012 1,003 Comments

by queenofthecouchin Parenting and Random ShitTags: , , , , , ,

On a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:

I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child,  coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime.  I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”.  I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own.  I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children.  Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, i urge you to rethink your parenting strategy.  If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of “affection” you are endorsing.

When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment?  And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships?  How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase “hitting on girls” comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the “it’s so cute when he gets hateful/physical with her because it means he loves her” asshattery  for your own kids, not mine. While you’re at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.

My daughter is `10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate.  There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, “that just means he likes you” line.  Wrong.  I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable.  I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they don’t hurt her and they don’t put her down.  I want my daughter to know that the  boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didn’t do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that  will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life.  I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life. For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should  tell me.  If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then,  if it continues, to yell, “STOP TOUCHING/PUNCHING/PUSHING ME” in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me.  Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her.  He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist.  When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, “he probably has a crush on you”. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm  and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered?  Fuck off.  I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter.  If these same advice givers’ sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kid’s ass, if necessary.  They sure as shit wouldn’t say, “he probably just wants a play date”.

I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect.  Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesn’t deserve her respect, friendship or love.  I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesn’t involve hitting girls.  I can’t teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her.  I can’t raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.

The next time that someone offers up that little “secret” to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, “I LOVE YOU”.

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I don’t LOVE my WIFE!


THIS IS A REPOST OF ONE OF MY PREVIOUS POST: HOPE YOU ENJOY IT FOR VALENTINES DAY! I WILL DELETE IT IN A FEW DAYS….

NO I don’t love my wife, “I am IN LOVE with my wife!!” My friends let’s get this straight, if you are not IN LOVE with your committed partner then you need to put in some serious overtime into your relationship. I love sports, I love ice cream, I love coffee, I love my children, my parents, my granddaughter, my dog. But when it comes to my wife, I don’t just love my wife, I am IN LOVE with my wife. I gotta be honest, I just don’t get it? Your wife or your husband has to be your confidant, your best friend, your lover! The one person you can share your dreams, your aspirations, and your fears with. Basically they are an extension of your soul. So how can you just love them? how can they not take your breath away? You consider yourself the SHIT don’t you? You’re the MAN or the WOMAN so the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with had to be the finest-hotest dime piece on the planet. They made you smile and happy when ever they came around, your knee’s would get weak and your heart pounded in your chest. You could not wait to touch them, to hug them, to kiss them and to show them off and brag about them to your friends and family. SO  WTF HAPPENED? When did you JUST start to love them? Think about it and talk about it. Now back up and get your hands off that key board. I can feel the heat from your hate coming from my screen. Talkin about, there goes Mr. breakitdowwwnnnn preaching to me bragging about how perfect he is, how great a husband he is and how his wife is a saint, Yada, Yada,Yada, Blah, Blah Blah. Being all negative and defensive. No I am doing no such thing and if you have read my post for any length of time you already know that. I know that a committed relationship is incredibly hard work and our first ten years were unbelievably difficult because we were so young and immature but we fought on. What I have grown to understand is that I have always been in love with my wife and she with me and we have both worked hard to keep each other in love with each other. I can get in-depth in another post on how my wife works to treat me like a man and her husband and how I treat her like a woman and my wife to keep us in love. But for now I still don’t understand how you can not be head over heals in love with your partner. How you can not Brag about them and show them off, protect them, encourage them, respect them. Shit I don’t know? now I’m just rambling on. You tell me if I’m wrong. I can take it.  

I love this version of this video because it conveys the passion that is being so IN LOVE with your partner that the thought of losing them will crush you and every day it will rain. Play it in full view and play it loud so you can see how intense and powerful Bruno Mars sings this song.

amazing lyrics.
“If you ever leave me baby, leave some morphine at my door, Cuz it would take a whole lot of medication, To realise what we used to have  we don’t have it anymore.
There’s no religion that could save me, no matter how long my knees are on the floor.(ooooh) so keep in mind all the sacrifices I’m making, to keep you by my side, and keep you from walking out the door
[Chorus] Cuz there’ll be no sunlight, if I lose you baby. There’ll be no clear skies, if I lose you baby and Just like the clouds pass, my eye’s would do the same, If you walk away, every day it will rain, rain, rain.

Directed by: Phil Pinto & Bruno Mars.

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